When you log into Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, you are bombarded with images, posts, and words from your friends and acquaintances. Some of us follow celebrities and their glamour lives, and others follow family members or friends from high school. What are people posting? Normally it’s the “good stuff”. People portray their best selves with social media. It’s impossible to compare yourself to someone else, but when they are showing their fancy cars, or impressive meals, or date nights online, it’s easy to be jealous or look down upon your life. Unfortunately, that’s our normal. When we’re surrounded constantly by others positivity (even if it’s censored) we start to think our life isn’t as great as others.
It’s okay to not be okay. As a society, when something tends to go wrong or we are going through a rough period of time, we tend to assume that we are defective or abnormal. The truth is, people are plagued daily by anxiety, fears, worries, financial issues, addictions, and health issues- they just choose not to broadcast that stuff. We start to panic when we feel like we’re not “okay”. We need to remind ourselves that it’s normal to have fears and anxieties and we are still okay with we’re not okay.
Recognize What You Are Feeling
The more you deny your feelings or give excuses to the reason you’re feeling a certain way, the further removed you are from an anxiety or issue. Confrontation is the best option. If it’s irrational anxiety, if it’s an insecurity, or if it’s sadness- the best thing to do is to try to figure out what exactly you’re feeling. Recognizing your feelings won’t give them power, if anything it will give you power over them. Have courage to say “I am anxious/ nervous/ upset/ sad but this isn’t who I am”.
Breathing is the best thing to do in moments of grief, anxiety, sadness, or nervousness. You are breathing. When we let ourselves get so revved up, it escalates every feeling we are experiencing. When we calm ourselves down and breathe deeply, we see our issues from a different perspective. Vision in hindsight is 20/20 because we have the clarity to see what happened and what we could have done differently. By breathing and separating ourselves from the emotions we are experiencing, helps us to put a finger on it.
What can you do right now. Are you stressing about a long list of overwhelming chores? Start knocking them off the list. If you realize that there isn’t anything you can do about these unwanted emotions- realize that sometimes you don’t have control over situations and feelings. This is where it helps to say “it is what it is” and let go. You will get through it and you will eventually come out the other end of the tunnel.
You are normal. Every single person goes through peaks and valleys in their life. It’s okay to not be okay all of the time. Instead of pushing things off and trying to portray something that you’re not. You are not alone, and it’s okay to not be okay all the time.
By: Erica T.