If only all life decisions were made by flipping a coin. I wish all decisions were that easy. Making a decision for some people can be easy; like choosing a spot to eat dinner. It’s not that I’m indecisive, I would normally describe myself as someone who is pretty assertive, but I’ve reached a point in my life where my decisions affect more than just myself- and that’s a scary thing.
I’m plagued right now with a decision about a career move that will both affect my life in different ways. There is no wrong answer and I’m lucky to have that option, but what do you do when there is a wrong decision? How do you go about deciding what the right choice is? Sometimes the answer is very clear, but other times it’s murky water that’s impossible to see through. I’m no expert, but I wanted to share how I arrived at my final decision and how sometimes the stress of actually making the decision itself is more than what you need to decide on.
Instead of vague rambling, I’ll give some background. I work in freelance production, which means I work for a certain amount of time and then I’m out of a job. I don’t work for a specific company that I am employed 365 days a year. My current job is coming to an end and I have two solid job offers on the table. That is absolutely nothing to complain about! However, I’m afraid that the choice I make will directly shift the course of my career and I’m unsure of the direction I want to go in this point of my life. I’m filled with anxiety about choosing so I’ve done a few things to ease my mind about my choice.
- Make a Pro’s and Con’s list. It sounds so rudimentary but when it’s written down in front of you, it makes it so much easier to comprehend. I made a pro’s and con’s list for both jobs and looked at them on the piece of paper. There is something cathartic about putting it in writing- things become more clear.
- Meditate. I decided to take a walk and NOT think about my choices. If I felt my mind wandering back towards my indecisiveness, I’d focus on something else specifically. If you force your brain to focus on the whistling of the trees, or the passing clouds, you instantly relax and it helps refresh your mind.
- Talking with family and friends can add stress to decision making. Only you can make the best decision for yourself. You know what’s best for you, and if you have too many people piping in, it can cloud your judgement. However, talking it through with someone is a great way to ease anxiety.
My mother gave me the best advice when I was really panicking about a decision I had to make. She said, “you make the best decision you can, at the time you make it.” That means that after weighing out all your options, you make the best decision you can. It’s important to remember that nothing is ever permanent. There is always a way to fix things or make things better for yourself. If something is the wrong decision, you can make a choice to change it. This provided me with a lot of solace. The bottom line, nobody can tell you what to do or knows what is best for you. The healthiest, happiest life we can live is when we put ourselves first, no matter how we choose to do that.
By: Erica T.