Stress is part of the human condition. Everyone has it. Many things can generate stress. Whether it is due to financial difficulties, relationship problems, your own health issues, or the health issues of family or friends, it is impossible to avoid. Stress can also lead to recovering people feeling like they want to relapse. Dealing with stress sober is something that newly recovering persons may not be accustomed to.
Dealing with Stress Sober – Some Quick Tips
If you have stress, don’t worry, and don’t pull your hair out. You’re not alone. Take a deep breath. Tell yourself: “I’m going to be okay.” Repeat this phrase. We can get bent out of shape and allow our minds to run rampant on us, or we can reel in any negativity associated with our stress and do something to change our mindset. Maybe you can’t instantly get a new job to solve your financial troubles. If so, just do your level best. Put your head down, and charge forward. After you’ve taken every reasonable effort, tell yourself that you’re going to be okay. Relax. Take it easy, and let things happen in their due course.
You cannot force a given outcome or situation, no matter how hard you may wish it. You’ll only get a headache trying to do so and it may lead you to a drink. Therefore, I say, do your very best, and allow events to unfold. You may believe in some sort of divine power, deity, or concept. If you do, trust that your guiding power will help you. Don’t you believe that power has helped you so far? And if so, why would you think it would just give up on you now and fail you? Allow your faith to be a cornerstone. Place your trust in it. Allow your higher power to help remove your stress or change your mindset.
I’m not saying “just pray and let everything work out.” This sounds fundamentally good.
It is not enough.
Dealing with Stress Sober – Additional Options to Try
In addition to trying prayer and faith, and allowing things to unfold, ask yourself, “is there anything I can do about this current situation?” If yes, by all means do it! Don’t sit back and wait for something to happen. Most likely, it won’t. You have to take accountability for your own actions. The best bet is to combine your faith and prayers into motivators to help you achieve what you want. Think of it like this: you can wish to paint a picture all you want, and you can pray for that picture to be painted, but if you don’t take classes to learn to paint, and put a brush to a canvas, that painting isn’t going to get finished.
If you don’t believe in any sort of divine power, perhaps you can find another more tangible thing to place your trust in. Do you have good friends? Can they be of help? Lean on them in times of trouble. Maybe you have coworkers or family going through similar stressful situations. There are also support groups available to consider. They can be of assistance as well.
Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, and let people know you’re stressed out. Talking is a very therapeutic method of dealing with stress (or any problem, really). You may find that your burden is lighter after you’ve talked it out over a sandwich or a cup of coffee with someone who cares and loves you. If you are really hard up, perhaps someone will offer to pay for your meal, or give you some cash to help you get back on your feet.
Stress is really nothing more than a phantasm. It feels very real, and can often be crushing, but only if you allow it to run your day. We can all run ourselves ragged trying to meet the day-to-day demands of life. No one is without problems.
This posting is meant for suggestive purposes only. It is not to be taken as a definitive guide to solving all of your problems. It is not meant to tell you how to live your life. You are free to exercise any free will you wish, and take or leave these suggestions as you see fit. The advice herein is not a substitute for professional help, or meant as therapy. It is merely meant to offer viable options to dealing with guilt that I have personally found effective. It is advised you seek professional help or medical treatment if you need it.